Hey, this is Rajiv Kumar Luv Trainer, Coach, Workshop leader, Author, podcaster, Youtuber and founder of The Personality Boss which conducts the Ultimate Personality Development Program, Course, Coaching, Training and Workshops in Mumbai. I help you design the life you want. The articles that I post on my blog also have one purpose in mind “Leadership through Personality Development” Now over to the article…
I did my schooling and College in Mumbai and I was a very average student. I was also shy, introvert and a loner, I had a phobia of speaking to people. I had minimum interaction with my own family members, the words I would use were, yes, no, okay. I started my career as a Manager in a Leathergoods Export company in Madras. My job was to produce all kinds of leather products to be exported to Australia, Belgium, Germany and France. In the company too, I was able to manage with minimum interaction with the workers. Then a time came when I felt that I have become stagnant, I didn’t enjoy the leatherwork anymore. I also had these voices within me telling me Rajiv become a trainer, initially, I tried to argue with these voices, how can I become a trainer, I can’t speak, I have no confidence, nobody would pay me. But these voices became stronger and more compelling and I felt that I had to do something about them or I will not be at peace. I told my family and relatives about my decision to become a trainer, they said it was a stupid idea and it was very risky, some even said that it was like committing suicide.So what did I do?
I took the plunge because my gut feeling would not let me rest till I did something. I started reading about topics on which I wanted to do training, attened seminars, listened to audiobooks, went to schools, colleges, clubs giving presentations. The first few years were quite frustrating but never did I get the thought of giving up I kept on going even though people made fun of me, some of my very close people even said that I had gone mad. When I look back, I realize that I took a great risk. Imagine you give up a career in which you spent 15 years and suddenly start something you don’t know anything about, you lack the skills and the confidence to take up the new career add to this no money and no people to help and support. What are the chances of success under the giving conditions? But still I think the risk that I took changed to course of my life completely. It gave me a better standard of living, gave me great satisfaction and happiness, took me to exotic places and gave me an opportunity to make a difference in the lives of over 1 lakh people…
You don’t achieve your dreams by playing it safe. Taking a risk pushes you out of your comfor zone. In life we come across plenty of situations where we have to take risks for example to ask a question in class / speak to the opposite sex / say No to a boss /stand up to the boss/ learn something new / speak in front of a large audience / start your own business / fly in an airplane / drive on the road / telling a joke / expressing your idea. In this podcast I want to give you Five reasons why you should take risks. Here we go…
1. You build confidence
I had a phobia of standing in front of an audience and speaking and this was my biggest obstacle to becoming a Trainer. I then took a risk of joining a Public speaking course. The first time I stood in front of about 35 people I was literally shivering words wouldn’t come out of my mouth. My mind went blank even when I had to introduce myself. But as the course progressed I became more confident and by the end of the course I won a prize too. So when you take a risk and keep working at it your confidence muscle become stronger and you feel it is no big deal.
2. You Win
You not only win prizes and accolades but you win credibility, you win people and you win business. Soon after finishing the public speaking course I started visiting various Institutes to sell my services. At one Institute I was talking about my Personality Development course to the Director, he listened to me with patience and then said, “Mr Rajiv I have a class of 50 students ready right now, would you like to give us a demo session” I said, “Why not?” So I gave a 2 hour energetic demo session. After the session the Director some feedback of students and then told me, “Rajiv, the students liked your session very much and we would like to have your sessions on a regular basis, can we discuss the commercials?
3. You grow
When you take a risk, what you are actually doing is creating a new self-image for yourself which has not yet happened in reality. For example if I decide to become an excellent Public speaker I am taking a risk but to make that happen I have to grow in knowledge, skills, experience and attitude. Each time you take a risk you will grow personally, professionally, mentally, socially, financially, emotionally and spiritually.
4. You Create
Only a person who is comfortable with taking risks can create something. The ones who love their comfort zone will never create anything. Much before Daniel Goleman’s book “Emotional Intelligence” arrived I was convinced that emotions play a very important part in our lives whether personal or professional so I created a training module on “Managing Emotions” But it was rejected by the director of a training organization saying that, “Emotions have no place in the corporate world” this program will not sell. I put my foot down and insisted that I would take the responsibility. When the program was announced we received good nominations and received good feedback, the director was sheepishly smiling happily. This podcast that you are listening to is also a creation, how many people are creating one podcast every week and sharing it with the world free of cost? The message is loud and clear only people who can take risks can create something of value for the benefit of the world.
5. You feel alive
Some years back when I was travelling by a local train in Mumbai I happened to strike a conversation with a person next to me. He very proudly told me that he always took the same train everyday, the same bogie and the same seat and the guy who sat behind him was also the same. How alive is that? Some people working in companies have been doing the same work for the past 20 years. They have one year experience repeated 20 times. But when you take a risk, you have to get out of your comfort zone, you have to stretch yourself to a new level, it is scary as well as exciting that’s what give you a fire in the belly and makes your life worth living. Go out and take some risks
Think of 3 risks you have been wanting to take but have not taken yet. Do something about them now!
I am Rajiv Kumar Luv. My passion in life is to make a difference in the lives of people so that they achieve their personal as well as professional best. I am absolutely committed to specially helping youngsters become leaders in their chosen fields. In the past 28 years, I have trained over 100,000 people from all walks of life. Through my two-day program “Leadership Through Personality Development” I help the youth plan their career, build confidence, make better decisions, manage time and develop their employability skills to meet today’s real-life challenges. You can learn more about me and the work I do by visiting: http://www.thepersonalityboss.com